I get a lot of emails, asking me a range of questions about dieting, weight loss, motivation and exercise.
These emails ask about specifics - and sometimes I get the impression that I am being asked to reply back with a definitive plan, or an exact formula, or a secret, to make weight loss easy.
I have lost a fair amount of weight. (About 40kg or about 85lb.) I still have a way to go. I am currently maintaining this weight loss and maintaining my body shape and fitness levels. So I guess that is why others might feel compelled to email me for advice? And I do feel touched when people tell me they are inspired and motivated by my efforts so far...
So I do usually give an overview of what has worked for me, and what I recommend someone else to try. It is no secret. Eat less calories, and move more. A daily intake of 1200 calories, and at least 45 minutes a day of exercise, plenty of water, plenty of sleep.
But here's the thing - I am guessing that most overweight people, including myself and anyone who emails me - we already know how to lose weight. We already KNOW we need to eat less and move more. We all already KNOW that a healthy balanced diet and plenty of exercise means that we will lose weight.
So why are there so many of us who are still overweight?
Why, when we know that an apple is the best option, do we sneak in a bar of chocolate instead? We know that is a bad choice, especially if we want to lose weight, but we manage to justify it anyway?
If we KNOW that regular daily exercise is great for weight loss, why don't we do it? Why do we make up excuses to not do something that we know if effective for losing weight?
If we have clear ideas on what we want to look like and how great we would feel at a healthy weight, why are we still overweight?
If we are goal orientated and can realise the benefits of a healthy, fit body, why do we drag our heals and not move toward this?
Why do we persist in behaviours that keep us overweight?
I'll tell you why - somehow, being fat is working for us. Eating too much is giving us a payoff of some kind. There is, in some way, a benefit to being the size we are.
Some how, some way, for some reason, our brains and bodies are getting a message that being overweight is working for us.
If I try and analyse this in myself, I find myself uneasy and confused by the utter mind-fuckery that this concept presents. What on earth is it that makes my brain so happy to hold onto the idea that being fat is actually benefiting me in some way?
Off the top of my head -
- Overweight is safe
- Overweight hides me
- Overweight plays down my abilities
- Overweight calms me down
- Overweight slows my frantic brain
- Overweight forces me shine in non-physical ways
- Overweight gives me a (
false) sense of abundance
- Overweight gives me something else to blame if I fail
- Overweight is a well know habit
How about you? Are you are overweight despite knowing exactly how to lose weight? Can you identify with what I am saying here?