I am plagued by the drama queen trait.
The petulant, foot stomping, look at me look at me look at me attention seeker.
When the going gets tough, the drama queen pulls out all the stops.
The self centred, the self obsessed, the needy, the scrambling for centre stage.
I seem to attract it.
It drives me mental.
That characteristic which craves to make a simple issue into a drama of galactic scale.
You know the type.
Everything is tougher and more.... well, dramatic.
Facets of life that most people just get on with are pinpointed for attention. All. The. Bloody. Time.
So if they are not the centre of attention for a second, they quickly have a method that can draw eyes and attention and energy back to them.
Someone who cried and whines about all the stress in their life, often claiming "too much drama" but in reality they bring it upon themselves.
Someone who is desperate to garner and maintain attention.
Someone who has some minor emotional dysfunction and so makes it their duty to make life harder for everyone around them.
Someone who just simply can't get over it.
Sigh.
Enough already.
No more.
I am no longer entertaining the drama queen or attending her scenes...
Well, I think you and I have discussed this before, and my solution was dramatic. In my case, it is my siblings and I have cut them completely from my life. One of them 10 years ago, the other 4. (And a brother, but he kind of does his own thing, but is much closer to my sisters. A shared drug habit helps there, I guess).
ReplyDeletePeople think I'm harsh or cold and can't wrap their heads around how I could actually simply remove them from my life. But a)it never ends. There is *always* something, always some drama. And I have the personality that plays right into their games. And b)I have an illness (several actually) that is excacerbated by stress.
My life is so much calmer without them in it. Sure, sometimes I read blogs or see pics of friends with their sisters and I'm wistful and sad. But for the sisters I *wish* I had. Not for the ones I was dealt.
Life is too short and our own little families too precious to be caught up in the minutae of bickering and toxic relationships. You deserve better.
(Sorry about the essay. See. This is why I will *never* be able to participate in a Wordless Wednesday. :D Even my apology for writing so much is long,lol).
She plagues me too. But then all the little things she used to exemplify seemed insignificant when I actually got real problems. I wouldn't let her draw attention to them because I needed to conserve my energy to deal with them and not use it to entertain her! I would never have picked you as being ruled by your Drama Queen Lucy? you are much too lovely and giving of a person :). Perhaps you need to just tell her to POQ when she comes visiting ;). (and sometimes it is ok to entertain her I have found :)as sometimes she comes visiting to remind you that the things which plague you are important too, no matter how small xo)
ReplyDeletewhoops...I read quickly and I don't think I read correctly. I thought you were talking about you feeling like entertaining the drama queen within and not attracting other people who are drama queens? Oh crap. Well if it is the latter then as a good friend said to me lately, "f*%k them all!" ;) . Get them out of your life my lovely friend :) or put on some invisible earphones when they are present so that you look like your are listening but really you are sitting on a beach in tahiti ;) xo
ReplyDeleteI keep the DQ's in my life at arm's length. I have to... other wise their toxicity ends up washing over me, and I'm done do toxic. Some I have completely cut out of my life - other's due to biological reasons are not so easy to cut out - but I can cut them off at the pass... by speaking my truth. If someone is banging on about the same old stuff that I have been hearing for years, and usually end up saying, so do something different because what your doing obviously isn't working... all said with a smile of course, and then an oh, look at the time, got to go and xyz.
ReplyDeleteLife's too short to have it filled with other peoples drama.
Ignore them... Or, if I'm feeling particularly *ahem* unsympathetic shoot down their every comment with a "well, that's not so bad, if you were in x, y, z situation it would be so much worse." DQs hate it when you point how much worse it could be!!
ReplyDeleteYou don't need crap in your life - cut them loose and enjoy. Spend time with those people who lift you up not bring you down.
Ah yes, my lovely big sister is very much a drama queen. But the thing is, there is one ongoing drama that I have been on the periphery of for a good ten years now. We have the same conversation about it every few months and I just draw out the same responses. I'm a patient person but if she wasn’t my sister....
ReplyDeleteAh Drama Queens - I know them well. Enough said. We know the deal xx
ReplyDeleteI have come to realise that anyone in your life that drains you of your energy isn't worth keeping around.
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree with Kate that you need to spend time with those that are positive and energising!
I use to but not anymore ... She wanted me to choose between friends and I stood my ground and said I couldn't so she walked out ... Was the best decision because now I don't have to deal with the dramas and jealousy. Lifes to short for bickering.
ReplyDeleteI couldn't agree more. Life is too short to be entertaining drama queens. I don't have the time or the energy to invest in this type of behaviour, as harsh as it sounds.
ReplyDeleteWho knows...
ReplyDeleteI think I am one.
That would answer a lot of questions! ;) x
Yeah well, my blog is called melodramatic me...I figure can't change it, may as well roll with it.
ReplyDeleteGeez honey, I'm not your drama queen, am I??? *insert worried face*
ReplyDeleteWhoever's bugging you, hand 'em over to me. I'll dramatize the life out of them!!!! haha.
By the way, I'm so glad you had a guilt-free social weekend - mine was awesome!!!! Lots of love xxxxx
I entertained drama queens for years and years. I found that if I no longer invited them to the party so to speak, they quickly found another that was willing to be part of their drama. There are two persistent ones that are continuing to try their best to make my wedding a drama, but I am not buying into it at all. I don't mind their drama so much, it's the way they make me feel. Anybody who can bring out a nervous rash in me, make me feel sick to my stomach, and cry my heart out is no longer welcome in my life, and they're certainly not going to come near Miss A. I grew up surrounded by female family members that did that exact same thing to me from as early as I can remember. And I no longer see any of my mother's side of the family as a result. Drama, drama, drama. Life would be so much simpler without it. xx
ReplyDeleteThere are a couple I have distanced myself from in recent years. Just didn't have the energy for it. It feels good to be freed up from dealing with all of that. I have found since the Batsman's autism diagnosis that I have a much more finely tuned sense of what is important and real and what is bullshit and fairy floss. Love to you Lucy and hope you find your way down the "no drama queens allowed" path xxx
ReplyDeleteI had one in my life last year, and it was so terribly draining. Luckily through a geographic move I have managed to keep this person in my life minus the day to day dramas.
ReplyDeleteI don't feed the drama. that is my number one tip. With myself or with other people. It's a way of being like any other, you can choose to be with it or not.
ReplyDeleteI grew up in a family of 5 girls and 1 boy so dramas was every day to be expected but you would think as they got older they would have grown outta it? Wrong they got more insane and should own the golden gongs of drama royalty by now! my eldest sister is beond any reach of sanity these days and can have an drama with just herself and still blames others! the lastest being a guy we have been friends with for years she has grown a huge crush on thought she was fibbing about a few thing again and guess who got the blame lol yes ME.. but if you can bear the punishment of a drama queen you can pretty much deal with anything just make sure you always have tissues and icecream in huge supply lol.
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