Friday, 29 April 2011

How I met the Lovely Husband...

I have been a trippin' and a stumblin' down memory lane. About love. And how grateful I am that things turned out the way they did.

The lovely husband and I met way back when Optus first started out in Australia.

Remember being able to Dial 1456?



That was me and him. And a few others too, but not many.

Back in those days (1995?) the induction training for all new Optus employees was six weeks long. (Six weeks? Fark. Times have changed.)

So, Andrew and I had six weeks of getting to know each other/showing off to each other/nicking off for smokes together.

I liked him.

He had nice long eyelashes. And he was verbose and confident. A cynical optimist. Really. He told me that about himself on the first day we met, and I thought he was mad. Cute, but mad. I thought that to be a cynical optimist was a total contradiction. An oxymoron. But it's true and possible. He is, to this day, a cynical optimist.

We then worked and partied together for a year or so. We were friends. We talked, and flirted. We got messy together on Friday nights at the pub.



I was fond. In a very low key kind of a way. He had a nice bum. Him and his goatee and his general levels of hedonism: they were fun.

We were close, in a drinking buddy kind of way. He would kiss the top of my head as he got up go to the bar to get me a drink. In a way that made our other work mates raise eyebrows. But I kind of just sat with the idea of him, in anticipation.

And then, one day...he then went and got married to some other girl. (A blonde skinny thing.)

I could tell you I was broken hearted. But I wasn't. A little sad that my Friday night pash was out of action, perhaps. It actually didn't bother me. I think I kind of quietly knew that we would end up together eventually one day. But that was a deep down in my gut very quiet type of whisper.

Him getting married to someone else was just an odd detour. I think he was on a one way street with her, unable to chuck a u-ey.

Anyway...his marriage was short and sweet. As was my attention span, to be honest. I think he tried to take me on a few dates. But I never realised he was trying to woo me. I thought we were "just friends".

I then took a trip back to England to extinguish some old flames. And whilst I was away, I would get sweet voicemail messages from Andrew. Those messages from him, well...they made me feel safe.

He picked me up from the airport when I returned from that trip.

He drove from Palm Beach to Mascot at some ungodly hour of the day, to meet me off my plane and to carry my bags.

And I still didn't really get that he was wooing me.

A week or two later, I offered to take him for dinner, to thank him for all of his gracious taxi services.

We went to a beachside restaurant in Coogee.



And he had to walk me through it very slowly.

Andrew: So, what are we going to do about us?

Me: What d'you mean, us?

Andrew: Well, we can carry on as we are...you know, friends,

Me: Yeah........

Andrew: Or friends that hook up on a Friday night...

Andrew: Or you could go get a proper boyfriend on me?

Me: Yeah...

Andrew: Or we could do the sensible thing. Make it official? You and me...
Me: Oh. Errrrm, so which would be your preference then?

Andrew: The latter. Obviously. See if we fall in or fall out, perhaps?

Pause

Me: Oh. Okay then.

(I have to point out something here. The above script makes me sound very cool/charmless/disinterested. Not the case. I was blown away that such a lovely bloke was able to articulate so easily to me the options, and best of all, what he wanted.)

So, that was the night we got together.

We walked, hand in hand, to the top of the headland overlooking Coogee beach, and kissed and talked. For hours.

It was bliss.

There was little pomp or ceremony then.

And 16 years later, there is still no pomp or ceremony.

But it's still bliss....




(This post originally appeared when I guest posted last year over at Lori's place. I am now linking up to both the Weekend Rewind & Maxabella's Grateful....)





64 comments:

  1. Such a lovely love story. I like it most because it doesn't gush or fawn - it just is. x

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  2. Such a lovely love story. I like it most because it doesn't gush or fawn - it just is. x

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  3. Deux chiens et un garconApril 29, 2011

    A cynical optimist, that sound like a healthy state of being.  He is a trooper.  I love this story.  The sweetness of meeting you at the airport got me.  You both look a bit cheeky when younger.

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  4. I love your love story.  Now that's a fairytale ending. xx

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  5. I have an image in my mind of that day that he met me at the airport, imprinted on my brain. I think, if truth be known, that that was the moment I fell in love with him...

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  6. Thank you my love. I know you can relate... xx

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  7. So true. We are beyond gush and fawn...which makes me so happy. xx

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  8. That's such a touching story. And who needs pomp or ceremony?

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  9. Thanks Tat. We did eventually get round to getting married too - but still no pomp or high ceremony...

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  10. Aly @ The Mummy HatApril 29, 2011

    Aww that's such a lovely story!
    I love true love!

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  11. Life In A Pink FibroApril 29, 2011

    Just gorgeous. Despite the skinny blonde detour.

    Thanks for Rewinding at the Fibro!

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  12. You have a lovely story, I thinkm starting out as friends is great.  My husband and I were friends for almost a year before we started dating.  In fact I tried to set him up with a friend of mine, silly me.

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  13. Dolores @ A Labour of LoveApril 29, 2011

    Great story. Sounds like we worked at Optus at the same time. Fun days back then!

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  14. Congrats. In 1995 I was already married 15 years. Damn do I feel old thinking about that. I love your post. When Jim asked me to marry him I looked around for someone else he must of been talking too...I looked at him and said me? He smiled and just shook his head. Love memory lane.
    Take care and have a blessed day.

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  15. Congrats. In 1995 I was already married 15 years. Damn do I feel old thinking about that. I love your post. When Jim asked me to marry him I looked around for someone else he must of been talking too...I looked at him and said me? He smiled and just shook his head. Love memory lane.
    Take care and have a blessed day.

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  16. Congrats. In 1995 I was already married 15 years. Damn do I feel old thinking about that. I love your post. When Jim asked me to marry him I looked around for someone else he must of been talking too...I looked at him and said me? He smiled and just shook his head. Love memory lane.
    Take care and have a blessed day.

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  17. Dear Lucy..I simply loved what you wrote. And felt so good that you two got re-united only to get married again:) Bless you both. You two look great. 

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  18. I love your story,  kissing and talking, handholding and beachwalking.

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  19. I love your story  kissing & talking, handholding & beachwalking.  I'm ready for the weekend.

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  20. What a wonderful story.  I love that you felt like ti was going to happen all a long but were still blown away when it did happen.  Good for you.

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  21. He had a princess addiction for a while. Then he got better...

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  22. Haha! You're right, starting off as friends is the best way....

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  23. Really?! Small world! We were in Miller St then...it was a whole heap of fun. (We lasted 10 years with them!)

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  24. I hope we all get another 15 years!

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  25. Thank you. We took a while to get there...but it was worth it.

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  26. A thing we all still love to do, I realise - we went to another beach over Easter &repeated the pattern - handholding, talking and kissing....

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  27. I was blown away, you're right. Still am, some days!

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  28. What a well told story, made me smile today :) I love the honest straightforward approach of giving you the options, sounds like he's a man after my own heart. Thanks for sharing!

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  29. the rhythm methodApril 30, 2011

    Gorgeous. This is such a great story, and a true telling of that lovely/horrible feeling of not knowing what the other person's intentions are. You both look so fresh faced in that picture, I can imagine you causing a stir amongst your work colleagues with all of those stolen kisses.

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  30. We did. For years. People that we both still now from that work environment still tease us...and shake their heads in disbelief that we turned a Friday night pash into a committed blissful loved up life with three children...

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  31. He is nothing if not direct...

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  32. Glad it all worked out for you:)

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  33. Kelly @ Polkadot LaneApril 30, 2011

    Such a lovely story to read, it really brought a smile to my face - the sweetness, the simplicity, the love. Thanks so much for sharing x

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  34. I'm glad it made you smile Kelly. Me too. X

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  35. Thanks Kylie. It could have gone the other way - so glad it didn't...

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  36. Varda (SquashedMom)April 30, 2011

    Hi, lovely tale about you & your hubby. Found you from the weekend rewind. Nice geting to know you.

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  37. When I publish posts like this, it almost makes me a little more loving...nostalgia is a good thing!

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  38. Ooh, I love a good love story! And I love the simple, semi-awkward, "let's get together" conversation. It seems like all the great relationships start from such simple beginnings xxx

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  39. So true Jane - simple is best most times...xx

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  40. Sheila @ A Postcard a DayApril 30, 2011

    It seems to be this is the way it should be.  Marrying a great friend has a great future!

    Visiting from Life in a Pink Fibro. :)

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  41. Donna @ NappyDazeApril 30, 2011

    Oh bless, I do love me a good "getting together" tale!  Sounds like you both kissed a few requisite toads before finding the prince/princess you were destined to be with.  And evidently, 16 years on, its still as easy and wonderful as it began x

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  42. MultipleMumApril 30, 2011

    That is just gorgeous Miss Lucy. I can't believe he married someone else and you still ended up together, blissful and all! That is one connection my friend x

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  43. MultipleMumApril 30, 2011

    PS Just watching Jennifer Hudson on Oprah. Now that is one inspiring weightloss story! If only we could all look THAT fab at the end! I'm back on the wagon tomorrow. Will let you know how I travel xx

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  44. I dine out on the tale of his previous marriage. I find it fascinating. People have asked me if I was jealous, but I really hadn't caught up with my emotions. I still find it all a bit unreal, even after all this time...

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  45. Me too. I did two weeks of perfection and have just come out of two weeks of freefall...

    Off to Google Jennifer Hudson right now...xx

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  46. We did. Too many to mention. Blush. xx

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  47. I still feel like that too...X

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  48. If does feel like the way it should be. We both had distasters before, and have never been tempted since. We're a good fit...

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  49. Hi Lucy, Wow! What a fabulous post. I enjoyed reading how you met your husband so much. Striking similarities to how my hubby and I met. We started out as good mates, at work and often went out together on Friday nights with other work buddies, flirting, dancing, chatting. Many an eyebrow was raised at us also. I was also oblivious to the fact he liked me in 'that way', despite some less than subtle hints from him... but hey, I was 20 when we met, so it's all in hindsight.
    I am pretty sure from the pic, you had dinner at Barzura in Coogee?! Hubby and I had dinner there the night he proposed... he actually popped the question on Coogee Beach. We've lived in and around the Coogee area for 10 years now. I post alot of photos of the beach on my blog.
    Anyway, newest follower here and so glad I found your blog through Maxabella's grateful posts :o)

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  50. ed pilollaMay 01, 2011

    this is such a fabulous post. i mean, i was smiling and following along eagerly. although i knew you ended up together, i read the post so interested to know how. goatee was a general level of hedonism. and cynical optimist. what a cool guy. nice to meet him. and very nice to see you again. 

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  51. That's a sweet story, your husband sounds like a lovely guy, and cynical optimism is a pretty good way to view the world, I think ;) 
    Thanks for sharing your story, and also for dropping by my blog :)
    Rhi x

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  52. Herding CatsMay 01, 2011

    What an amazing story.  Thank you so much for sharing.

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  53. Hey Julie - yes, it was Barzura - such a gorgeous spot - how lovely to be proposed to there! I lived in Coogee for a few years - it's such a great place to live. Off to find your blog now!

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  54. Hey Ed - I notice you're been blogging again - I am glad. X

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  55. Rhi, his head is expaning at all the compliments!

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  56. Thank you. It's one of my favourite posts - hence it got a rewind!

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  57. Julie, can you link me to your blog? I can't find it via your profile...

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  58. Love this story! Just beautiful.

    I share an eerily similar one, but substitute Optus with Foxtel. Ours includes an ex wife as well, although my hubster was at the separated stage when we met. And the six week training was just long enough for me to pack up and move in with him lol.

    May the adventure be long and joyous with you both <3

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  59. Thea SmithMay 01, 2011

    I loved it at Lori's and I loved it again here.
    Great love story!! x

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  60. so much smiling came from this post. thanks Lucy x

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  61. awwwww I love this story!

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  62. Hi Lucy, sorry I haven't replied... I'm such a battler when it comes to working out blogging and replies etc... hehe, thought I'd pop back to see if you replied to my message from the weekend and so you had! 
    My blog is Mama of 2 boys found on anglix@blogspot.com
    Wow, that is a coincidence you also lived in Coogee. We are up in Randwick now, but are always down at Coogee or Clovelly beach. It is a wonderful spot to live.  
    :o)

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