Years ago, I read this really good book, from the library I think.
I have since bought the book, and re-read it fairly regularly.
I have also recommended it countless times to friends: The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
I Googled the book and author today, in order to email the details to a friend, and found that since I last looked, there is a whole shiny new website, with online assessments included. (Of course, I undertook the assessment: I just revel in an online quiz...)
It confirmed what I already knew:
That "Words of Affirmation" closely followed by "Acts of Service" are my predominant love languages.
Tell me I am an utter sex goddess, and that I am a remarkably perfect mother, and then of course empty the dishwasher and detail my car? I am yours forever.
The issue is that those languages of love are the ones that, when I am the recipient, make me feel loved.
But how do we make sure we show others that we really love them?
Natural behaviour suggests we will attempt to show them we love them by....errrmm....you guessed it, whatever works for us. And hope that that fills their tank. Kind of wing it with a one size fits all approach?
Or should we try and guess what their language of love is? And then try to do those things for them?
Or get them to read the book, or complete the online quiz? (Good luck, I say.)
Or, just hope for the best?
I guess that by just being aware enough, and consciously making an effort to try and show them how much we love them, that might be a good start?
I am unsure.
What do you reckon? How do you like to receive love?
How do you give love?
Share with me?